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Anger to Tranquility

Posted on May 6, 2012. Filed under: Self-Investment | Tags: , , , , , |

Anger to Tranquility

When it is impossible for anger to arise within you, you find no outside enemies anywhere.
An outside enemy exists only if there is anger inside. – Lama Zopa Rinpoche
As the proverb puts it right; anger creates enemy which exist in you and gradually eats you up from the inside. Anger is nothing more than an emotion that robs off your energy feeling you remorse. It‘s like a wild animal let loose and everybody is scared of it.
Anger generally emanates due to absence of understanding of relations because basically that’s where the emotions take birth. Emotions surface up the moment we interact with other person which makes grooves on your mind. In solitude, we contemplate upon them to find a solution in vain because the damage is done. An angry person shouts to a person who is just a feet away to state his argument because the distance between the hearts have increased and they can no more hear each other. When anger disappears and love takes its place automatically the relationship is healed. Origin of anger is linked to relations because a few strained relations build up the anger and that same anger is reflected in mundane things.
We are what food we eat; this is an apt saying even in case of anger. Angry person tends to eat spicy, hot pungent food that plays havoc within the body and with the organs. A person eating hot spicy food tends to get angry and an angry person tends to eat ho spicy food, so this being vicious circle person is trapped inside, unconsciously. To get out of this; being aware of arising anger in oneself seems difficult or rather impossible; one way to tackle this easy way out is to consciously stop intake of hot and spicy food. When a person is angry the breath gets shallow, leaving heart gasping for fresh oxygen creating a pressure on heart and its veins, palpitation arise and results in perspiration. An angry person holds the stomach inside that creates pressure on the digestive system; hampering the system by circulating the toxins. These toxins spread to the whole body working as a slow poison. In a nutshell a person getting angry pushes himself towards death by cutting short his own life. Nobody wants to die early everybody want to live as long as they can. Even if an angry person after realizing all this feels helpless in the sense that the person understands the ill-effects of anger but cannot get out of it. It is same as an addicted smoker or a drunker who realizes the consequences of it but can’t get out of it.
Common misconception is that something you practice like taking a deep breath or counting, while you realize you are getting angry, will not work. Since those who have practiced, realize that in that state of mind even the thought of counting or deep breathing does not come that easily. Key to that is being always vigilant towards the emotions, by being in control of your mind and channelizing the energy.
Another aspect in which people fail to manage anger is, they suppress it. It does not do any good, since it’s just suppressed, but it’s still there. It is like sweeping your house and pushing the dust under the carpet so that no one sees it. Anger management works only if it helps you go beyond expressing or suppressing the anger. For anger, expressing or suppressing either way is detrimental to any situation. The right understanding is that to channelize the energy that one puts into exhibiting the anger. Way to channelize is to do the things that you enjoy the most, that which takes you beyond time and hunger. Such activities channelize your energy which is wasted in anger, ending up feeling regretted. When you do the things that you enjoy the most, you are in control of your mind and open to new things, which instills in you the quality of inner vigilance. This very inner vigilance is the key to anger management. Once this inner vigilance is practiced, flames of anger are doused and tranquility sets in which is noticeable externally also.
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned – Buddha

 

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Is Change Constant ?

Posted on February 3, 2012. Filed under: Self-Investment |

Is  Change  Constant ?

Yes, change is the only constant thing. One might think the words itself are contradictory ‘change’ & ‘constant’ but people seem to ‘know’ this proverb very well. It is so because people just ‘seem to know’ but very few people actually know what it means and probably 10% of them accept that ‘change’. Change is Constant has a very wide array of association it may pertain to changing person’s behavior, person as a whole, society, environment etc… So one might wonder what’s the big deal then, if everything’s changing.  The thing is that we fail to understand the gist of anything that is simple yet powerful, it’s like Cybernetics (a science of learning from nature) simple & powerful still people fail to understand it and take it for granted.

The ‘change’ is a pointer to changing one’s own self from the inside, because outside there are limitations whereas you have almost infinite options to change inside. The internal change is very much visible on the outside. People tend to work on the periphery of any problem rather than hitting hard on the core of it. Problems are never solved by beating around the bushes; they’ve to be tackled in a right way. People’s limited understanding regarding this profound truth is stuck on the outside. Change is generally perceived as changing their wardrobe, phone or maybe car/bike; failing to understand that the ‘change’ must come from within. Some people do realize the depth of ‘change is constant’ but for them it ‘seems’ very hard to change one’s own self from within. This ‘seems’ is our perception which makes anything hard or easy and the perception is up to us, we can alter it ourselves, if we wish to.

Still why this ‘changing from within’ appears to be difficult or rather impossible. It is our rigidity and our ‘I am perfect’ attitude that hinders that change and in turn our growth as an individual. We often see people saying ‘why should I change’, ‘why can’t he/she change’; this very rigidness makes the change apparently difficult.

One must learn from nature. Flowing water does not whine about the stone/boulders in its path rather is takes its own course and smoothly flows from the sides. Roots of the trees don’t fight with the stones in their path of search for water in the soil rather they curl around it and continue their search. Likewise one must be open to change and things automatically start falling in their places, one need not slog for it. Once an individual gets the key that change in inevitable, one can understand all of ‘how to change life’ and ‘how to be happy’ realities.

One might even wonder why to change, which is a very valid query. Almost every other person in the world has relationship issues that can be at workplace and/or in personal life viz… Family and spouse. Any two people who have altercation every fortnight maybe with the same reason or different, if one of them does not respond in the usual (harsh) tone the other person automatically calms down. If one decides to change and not argue with the same person then he/she will notice that previously it was just foolish to argue. This is the change, internal; not external. Change is constant in other words mean ‘Be open to uncertainty’. If one is flexible and is ready to accept whatever comes in the way. Also is not entangled between desires, core belief system and other mind blockages; the realization dawns that everything happens for a reason and that is for our betterment. Its nature way or say creator’s way of making us flexible. Like death, our whole life in its entirety is uncertain, one must not waste time in getting bruised in life by our rigidness rather be flexible, accept change and move to excellence. Be open, understand and analyze every situation that makes you uncomfortable; then you’ll be able to decode the reason why you were put into that situation. With this attitude life is bound to reward you.

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